Mel B is opening up about the difficult reality of menopause and the unexpected ways it affected both her health and her marriage.
The Spice Girls star admitted she initially feared something was seriously wrong after suffering intense symptoms that left her anxious, confused, and struggling at night.
Eventually, those changes even forced her and her husband, Rory McPhee, to completely rethink their bedroom routine.
Mel B recently spoke candidly about her menopause experience while appearing at London’s Ce La Vie rooftop bar in Paddington as the new global face of Revive Collagen.
The singer admitted the physical changes caught her completely off guard before she turned 50.
At first, she struggled to understand why she constantly felt overheated and emotionally unsettled, especially because she had recently moved from Los Angeles to Leeds, where the colder weather only made the symptoms feel more confusing.
“I was having terrible hot sweats and I remember before I turned 50, I would be sitting in a meeting going ‘Is anybody else hot?’ I didn’t know what was going on,” Mel explained to the Daily Mail.
As the symptoms intensified, she started worrying that the issue might be more serious than menopause itself.
“I thought to myself… I think something is a bit wrong with me. I know I moved from LA to Leeds and the weather is cold here but what the f-ck is going on?” she admitted.
The former Spice Girl said the experience quickly became frightening because she did not initially connect her symptoms to menopause.
Mel B And Rory McPhee Faced Bedroom Struggles
Mel B revealed that the symptoms also created unexpected tension in her marriage to husband Rory McPhee.
The singer married the hairstylist in July 2025 at St. Paul’s Cathedral, but shortly afterward, the couple realized they had completely opposite needs when it came to sleeping conditions.
While Mel desperately needed cold air because of intense night sweats, McPhee preferred warmth and comfort. Their nighttime struggles eventually pushed them to seek a solution that would work for both of them.
Mel B Reveals The Bedroom Fix That Saved Sleep
The pair ultimately invested in an Eight Sleep Pod mattress, which allows each side of the bed to maintain different temperatures.
“We do have the Eight pod because I like a freezing bedroom and I was getting hot sweats at night,” Mel said.
She explained that her side of the bed stays extremely cold while McPhee keeps his much warmer.
“My side of the bed is really cold. The mattress controls the temperature and it wakes you up gently. It’s genius,” she shared.
Mel also joked about their very different personalities when it comes to comfort.
“Rory likes everythiung really really hot, he’s a bit of a softie. I like everything really cold. I’ve always been like that,” she said.
The singer added that she has always preferred cold temperatures, but menopause pushed things to another level.
“I always like a window open even in winter but I needed it even colder,” she explained.
Mel B Linked Anxiety To Past Abuse Trauma
Beyond the physical symptoms, Mel B admitted menopause also affected her emotionally in ways she did not expect.
The singer said she became increasingly anxious and began doubting herself more often during the experience. That emotional shift eventually led her to question whether some of those feelings were tied to lingering trauma from her past abusive marriage to ex-husband Stephen Belafonte.
“It’s an ongoing thing when you suffer abuse,” Mel explained.
She admitted she started questioning why her anxiety suddenly felt stronger again and whether she needed additional therapy to process everything she had been through.
“I wondered why I was feeling more anxious and why I was doubting myself,” she said.
Mel reflected on the emotional toll of surviving what she described as a decade-long abusive marriage, admitting the experience still affects her life today.
“I know I’ve been through a lot with my ten year abusive marriage and I wondered if I needed to do even more therapy. It’s an ongoing thing,” she shared.
Mel B Nearly Turned To HRT Before New Discovery
As the symptoms worsened, Mel B said she had already reached the point where she planned to visit her doctor and seriously discuss treatment options.
According to the singer, becoming involved with Revive Collagen happened unexpectedly at exactly the right time.
“It just so happened that I was about to go to my GP and have a serious talk with him and ask what was going on when I started taking Revive,” she explained.
Mel said she became interested after researching the science behind the product and realizing it could potentially support women dealing with menopause symptoms.
“It couldn’t have come at a better time,” she said, while adding that the product can also be used alongside hormone replacement therapy.
Although she never ultimately started HRT herself, Mel admitted she had been preparing to seriously explore that route.
“I don’t need HRT now, not that I ever had it. But I was about to have it and investigate that,” she revealed.
Mel B Wants Women To Stop Blaming Themselves
Mel B ended her discussion by encouraging women to stop feeling ashamed or guilty about menopause symptoms.
The singer even joked that she now refers to the experience as the “MEL-opause,” while stressing that there is still far too much confusion surrounding the subject.
“Even though there is not that much research into the menopause, which I’ve renamed the MEL-opause, you have to realize that what you are going through is not your fault,” she said.
Mel pointed out that millions of women experience menopause differently depending on their age and body, which can make the symptoms feel unpredictable and frightening.
“A billion women go through menopause worldwide every single year,” she explained. “It can happen at 35, it can happen at 50 and it can happen for 10 years, so what you are going through can be quite scary.”
Despite the difficulties, Mel said she believes conversations around menopause are finally becoming more open and honest.
“There is so much misinformation but it’s so good that we are talking about it,” she added.